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Our Most Fervent Wishes in the Final Stage of Life

I recently spoke to a large group of elders on aging. I asked them to anonymously write down what they most fervently wished for in the final years. Here are their answers. How would you have answered this question?
Security and good health
Good health until my time to leave this life
Inner peace and contentment
Be happy with a life well lived
Peace and harmony with self and others and with creation and God
The freedom to finally engage in some of my personal interests
I want to feel comfortable with myself and physically able
To accept dying feeling I was a success at something
Health and a reason to get up in the morning
Good relationships
Intimacy, Connection and engagement
Wisdom and compassion
Peace of mind
Get in touch with inner self, be not so identified with my work but be more in touch with love      relationships and excepted as enough
To deepen my relationships with true intimacy
Service contentment family
I want peace of mind kindness understanding guilt free
Good health to continue and great relationships with my children and grandchildren and friends
Ability to face dying peacefully
Be content with who I really am (after I find out)
Become more compassionate and not angry about what I need to do
I want to continue to explore and come to understand the mysteries of life and my part in that      mystery
To be known, to be peaceful, and to be enough
To communicate myself for the good of the next-generation
Peace with my past
I want to be significant to have made a difference in the world
Make peace with a life that is well lived but is not as extraordinary as I had expected, coming to terms with being ordinary
I want to have a fulfilled life full of happiness and contentment
Spiritual fulfillment, travel creativity, love and intimacy, learning good health
The opportunity to completely write my life story
I want to experience a better consciousness of the meaning of my life while leaving behind or      passing on wisdom accrued overtime
To be released from the slavery of my never ending to do list.
Warm significant relationships that are kind, open and honest, that produce a benefit to humanity
To know that I have done the work of finding myself truly honestly, and in the time of life I haveleft (91), do more I have missed
To be able to live authentically which means for me not just fulfilling the functions that have       been assigned to me by cultural expectations but to actually love myself authentically to          the point of healing that allows me to accomplish this goal
A Honda Odyssey Van for sure
Abiding wisdom and serenity in the midst of trials
Interest and self-acceptance
Be loved and to be loving
Spiritual grounding and immersion and fun
Peace of mind, acceptance of aging's loss, integration
Peace, I have done enough
Connection to self and loved ones
Keep growing mentally and spiritually
Self-knowledge and conscious aging
To still be able to enjoy life and to keep my creativity
Peace, growth, security, and freedom from pain
Wisdom, tolerance, patience, laughter
Be in good health, keep in the spirit of God, have at least some very loving good friends
To be able to continue to enjoy peanut butter
To live fully alive in the time I have left even while letting things go
Peaceful existence and good health
Do aging gracefully and filled with meaning
Continuing longevity with partner (wife)
I want to feel that my life mattered and have that sense of purpose and completion as an artistic   person
A new sense of purpose, a reason for being, reason for life to continue in love and meaning
Integration, gratitude for what is
Equal and honest love
Insight, understanding, being understood, enjoyment, joy
A fresh, meaning-filled, and all-consuming focus for my energies
Peace, a goal to work at, family around me
Understanding and solace
What stands out most for me are these recurring wishes: a meaning to life, loving relationships with friends and family, acceptance of aging and death, peace of mind, personal and spiritual growth and understanding, a feeling of having mattered. Which answers reflect your wishes?

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